When you have a crush on someone, you just can’t stop daydreaming and hoping something will happen soon enough.
The excitement you get when your crush finally likes you back is, without doubt, the most bubbling emotional state.
On the flip side, the impression you get when your crush doesn’t like you back must be the worst feeling in the world.
At some point, despite the rejection from them, you still probe silently within your heart saying, “since this feeling about my crush is not leaving me at this time, could it be a sign that it’s meant to be?”
Or the popular “my crush rejected me but I still love him or her. How do I get out of the claws of these reoccurring feelings? After all, my crush has moved on!”
Yes, your best bet is to do the same. Without mincing words, you deserve all the happiness too.
So, in this article, you’ll learn why you should move on when your crush says no; why you keep loving someone who doesn’t love you and how to be whole again afterward.
What is Crush in Love?
A crush can be described as a feeling of love and intense admiration for someone; it is usually extravagant passion, seeming to be limited and temporal.
More so, crushing on someone has something to do with the person’s physical appearance or the unique way the person speaks or the manner of walking and it is primarily ephemeral.
Why Does Unrequited Love Hurt So Much?
Not reciprocated love or one-sided love is love that is not given mutually or is returned in kind as such by the beloved. The person who is loved may not take cognizance of the admirer’s deep and strong romantic affection, may intentionally reject it or be indifferent to it.
Why does unrequited love hurt so much? It does hurt because nothing is as emotionally exhausting and discouraging as loving someone who doesn’t love you in return. Truth is, unrequited love does hurt so much.
If you ask me how long does unrequited love last? Unrequited love remains if you don’t learn how to move on from a crush that doesn’t like you or want a relationship with you. Besides, it might be a wasted effort to ask when you are outrightly rejected by someone on how to make one-sided love successful. Hence, why you should move on when your crush says no!
How to Deal When You’re Rejected by Your Crush
You got rejected? Yea, it happens! And it’s about time you learn to move on, as outlined in the points below. You will find out why you don’t have to feel the whole world is about to end for you.
1. It Could Be a Blessing When Your Crush Says No
Okay, the deed has been done and you’ve found out the feelings are not mutual; your crush has said no! And, of course, the thought of moving on seems so difficult.
Yes, it hurts. I have been there too. The truth is, you must learn how to move on from a crush that doesn’t like you.
Isn’t important you pause a minute, and remember how a lot of things turned out to be a blessing for you in the past even when they appeared to be of disadvantage in the first place?
Look at it this way: the rejection from your crush may be saving you from unforeseen circumstances that could mar your love life when you finally have a relationship you are proud of.
Have you thought of that before?
Take it that the right person will never reject you when you make your intentions known. Who’s yours will be delighted to cherish and love you unconditionally.
2. The Struggle of Crushing on Someone
A guy can be crushing on a particular lady and sincerely be all out to show this to her. But the lady is not seeing him in the same light.
The same scenario plays out for the female folks too. She’s just in her world of infatuation and crushing hard on the guy and even if the signs are obvious the guy seems indifferent to them.
Dude is looking somewhere else, everyone in a different world.
The thing is, sometimes you just wonder the person you admire this much, whose thought wakes you up every night, can’t love you back.
Another reality is the person you don’t love or think about for a second is dying hard for you all the time. The complex isn’t?
Most times it plays out like this:
You’re in her heart almost all the time but she’s not in your head at all not to talk of being in your heart.
The guy wants to hear her voice but when his call pops up on her phone she wishes it was another person calling.
It’s something clearly common to both parties.
If this situation best describes you, I’ll advise don’t try to force anything when the other party is indifferent to how you feel about them.
Most importantly, if the person has shown that they’re not interested in you in the same way you are with them, then let it go.
That’s one of the best ways to help your heart and emotions. It’s never healthy to stay in someone else’s history.
No matter how it plays out in our society today, and beyond, there’s someone out there for you, specially made for you and amazingly fitting for you.
This person might be closer than you think, only be sensitive.
3. Shift Your Focus on Other Relationships
If your crush was a very close friend of yours, then you can’t but feel really disappointed. And heartbroken too.
No matter how cheap the thoughts around this are, don’t stay on the feeling of disappointment. It can lead to resentment and that alone can ruin the friendship you’ve built over time.
Be happy for your crush and learn to move with your life.
Distract yourself from them by relating with other people, your family and friends who love you best.
When you focus on other relationships, then it’ll be easy to get over the feelings for your crush (your ex-crush, as far as I’m concerned).
Finally, resolve in your heart to engage in activities that can help you stay positive or simply do things that make you happy.
I think I’ve been able to educate you enough on why you should move on when your crush say so. But I would love to have your thoughts too. Let’s hear what you think. Thanks.
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